Thank you all for your outpouring of support on the husband situation. I also want to thank you all for offering your condolences in regards to my mentor Mr. Dennis Willis.
So that talk was had tonight. It was going to happen. I just couldn't do it last night because I was beyond pissed the hell off. I sent him a text message this morning letting him know that we needed to talk when he got home from work.
So I let it all out. I told him that we all have to form a united front when it comes to raising the children. I out right asked him if he hated my mother. I even told him to stop second guessing my damn decisions if he was not going to offer any actual input at decision time.
He says he does not hate my mother. I let him know it was unacceptable to speak to her in the manner in which he spoke. He went to her room and apologized. I told him bottling his feelings up is not healthy...especially if it will lead to an explosion at a later date. I calmly explained to him that we need to have better communication or we should just call it quits now.
He apologized to me as well. He also agreed with our conversation about the kids. Equality on all fronts. I will see how things go. I'm not putting up with a temporary change. It's all or nothing.
On another note...this is a major NSV!!! During the entire conversation I sat on the couch facing him Indian style. The last time I was able to sit like that I was a junior in high school. Of course I pointed that out to him and he was so excited for me.
There is a Rihanna and Ne-Yo song titled Hate That I Love You with the following lyrics:
I hate how much I love you boy
I can't stand how much I need you
And I hate how much I love you boy
But I just can't let you go
And I hate that I love you so
Another song that sums me up. LOL
Can yall tell I love music?!?
9 comments:
That song pretty much sums it up for me too. Love how music says what we can't sometimes. Glad you were able to talk to him.... hopefully it will stick. Praying for you. :)
I LOVE that song!
So glad you had the talk, and that it appeared to go well. I really hope for his sake he makes a permanent change. For some reason I don't think I would like to be on your bad side... ;)
I think sometimes we don't want to have the "talk" because it can be easier than actually having to go through it and work things out. I am so proud of you for keeping your composure through it and I hope that the talk works for you and things begin to get better.
Way to stay focused, strong and get what both you and your mother deserve...A little Respect!
That is wonderful...and I love that he listened and actually apologized to your mom. That is wonderful!
It's so nice that he listened. I hope things work out.
That's great! I'm glad you are happy again!
It's refreshing to hear 2 married people can sit down and have a rational, calm and meaningnful conversation to overcome their difficulties. I think that's getting rarer and rarer these days.
Okay - I gotta go back...I missed what happened....to be continued.
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